Prohibitions and restrictions – the trappings of education. They help parents care for the safety of life and health of the child and the child learn moral values (what is good and what is bad). K Unfortunately, the bans, but an indisputable good, bring a lot of harm! They contribute to widening the gap of misunderstanding between parents and children and prevent the development of the child, forcing him into a morass of low self-esteem and insecurity in their abilities. How did this happen? To begin with, that ways of its development the child is very often confronted with the word "impossible". Adults are difficult to assess the extent of this phenomenon, as uttered the word automatically, mechanically, and this, as all familiar, is not noticed (a little understood). In this case, they tend to understand why they ban this or that behavior to their children (care about the safety or form cultural and moral values). Children, on the contrary, it is absolutely unclear why forbidden to do anything.
The situation is exacerbated by the fact that children are well aware of – much of what they do not, adults are not only permitted, indeed, for that he also "Thank you" they say. For example, 3-year-old girl wants to help her mother cook a soup, but my mom is trying to remove it from the plate, knowing what the dangers of pot with boiling water. In this case, mother did not Only you can make soup, but she receives praise for this, a kiss on the cheek and a host of other "strokes" of the pope.